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7 Pitfalls To Avoid When Facing Divorce

Published On: January 24, 2017

So, you’ve been served with divorce papers. Now what, right?

Whether you saw it coming or not, you have several things to worry about…

  • Responding to the accusations in the lawsuit
  • Dealing with all of the emotions involved
  • Deciding on whether to get legal help through all of this
  • Figuring out how the finances of this will all work
  • Worrying about your kids…and the list goes on and on….

7 Common Divorce Lawsuit Mistakes

A great attorney will help you avoid all possible divorce lawsuit pitfalls. Here are just a few that you will want to keep in mind and discuss with your attorney…

1) Due date of the response in the lawsuit.

You only have a certain amount of time to file an answer when served with divorce papers and it’s important to do so before the deadline.

Fill out our contact form found on this page, Email us, or call (402) 235-6070 and we’ll help you file your answer here in Nebraska right away.

2) Keep your emotions in check.

Indeed, divorces can be emotionally difficult, given that you pledged to build a life with someone and it hasn’t worked out.

However, so much more emotional energy (and money) will be spent on retribution as opposed to resolution.

With that, having the right mental approach is a good way to proactively defend yourself.

3) Make sure you have good people on your team.

Defense is a team effort, so it is good to have people you like working with who have your best interests at heart.

In addition to your attorney, it is helpful to have relationships with a financial advisor, an insurance agent, a child psychologist and even a massage therapist.

4) Use your best manners on Facebook.

And all other social media. Seriously!

Your social media postings can be used against you. Don’t air your case in public.

This is a tough time for everyone involved… don’t overshare.

Have questions? Email or call us at (402) 235-6070. We’re standing by to answer them.

5) Stay gainfully employed.

Most importantly, it is critical to keep your job during the process.

While the divorce itself may not be extravagantly expensive, you may still have to maintain a household on one income, as opposed to two.

This is also very important if children are involved.

6) Keep your kids out of it.

Be sensitive to a child’s feelings. After all, they didn’t choose this new life they’re being forced to live. It is only natural for kids in these situations to be upset.

Refrain from insensitive remarks about the other parent in front of them. Scoffing at positive remarks about the other parent, or bad-mouthing them should be avoided.

7) Family Violence.

Domestic abuse is an equal opportunity offense that we see in our practice and that may have significant impact on how a divorce or custody case is decided.

We encourage victims of both sexes to seek professional advice.

If you believe you have experienced domestic violence, the attorneys at Vacanti Shattuck Finocchiaro Attorneys are here to help you through this frightening and often embarrassing ordeal and to help you regain control of your life.


Getting served with divorce papers can seem catastrophic at the moment. But you will pull through it.

Keep your head up and keep seeking quality help and advice.

The attorneys of Vacanti Shattuck Finocchiaro Attorneys are standing by to help and to answer any questions you may have.

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