Protecting Children Of Divorce During The Holidays
Published On: December 25, 2014
The Christmas holidays are supposed to be a great time for children. Aside from the gifts that they will receive, they have a chance to see relatives, they can enjoy unique Christmas treats and of course, they are out of school (for those who are of that age). However, for children of parents who are going through a divorce, all the festive tidings and good cheer may be irrelevant.
The difficulties of divorce and child custody battles may be harmful to children, but these things can be avoided. This post will provide some guidance.
Seek alternatives to litigation – Indeed, there will likely be no court hearings regarding custody and parenting time during the holidays, but the preparation for these impending dates may affect how parents treat each other. Finding other amicable ways to resolve their differences may protect children and keep them out of the lines of battle between parents.
Keep kids out of the fray – This may be obvious, but children should not be witnesses to parents’ fights, and they should not be messengers or spies for mom or dad. Even if a split has occurred, things should be as normal and festive as possible. After all, Christmas is about them. If they do see disagreements, reassure them that it is not their fault.
Stay healthy – Maintaining your physical, emotional and mental health is beneficial for kids. If you are okay, they will be okay, as they commonly take their cues from you. If you’re not feeling well (emotionally) take steps to get help. You should not underestimate the benefits of a good therapist.
Source: HuffingtonPost.com, “Five ways to protect children during divorce,” Deborah Anderson Bialas, November 25, 2013